There’s a Huge Difference between Cultivating a Community and Building a Church

by Kathy Escobar

Like the word “pastor”, “church” has become gravely misunderstood. If the average person was asked what they thought of when they heard the word church, most people would say “Sunday morning, music or worship, a sermon, prayer," (or a host of other things related to their experiences, both good and bad).

For the most part, people don't associate the word church with “deep and meaningful and vulnerable connections with people, carrying each other’s burdens, eating with one another, sharing resources, advocating for the marginalized, sacrificing comfort, and bringing the good news to hard places together in practical, tangible ways.”

I see new church plants popping up all the time, sandwich boards and ads coming into my mailbox at home and in my Facebook feed. The typical elements are not that hard to find–a gathering place, music, a good message, and some kind of programmatic glue will bring something to fruition.

Cultivating community is a whole other animal.

We’ve definitely had our shares of ups & downs, but I’d say the one thing that has always been central is focusing on cultivating a diverse, experiential, advocacy-infused, transformational healing community.

It’s also why we’re small.

Sometimes it’s all just...weird.

The church building formulas "work" for a reason.

Formulas can and do build some really amazing churches.

But the formulas don’t usually create community.

Finding ways to knit hearts together, share life and meals, gather around a common purpose but allow for a wide range of diversity and perspectives, nurture a spirit of justice and action, make room for doubt & questions & fears and somehow create a safe and challenging container to learn to love God, ourselves and others and be loved by God, ourselves, and others requires a whole different way of thinking.

In re-thinking this today, here's a short list of the difference between “cultivating communities” and “building churches”:

  • Cultivating a community requires an extremely high level of relationship that many of us haven’t learned to really do. The way to learn how to love is to have chances to practice love. We practice in close relationship and have our lives rub up against others. Like so many other ways of the kingdom Jesus' call to love requires a level of commitment to time, vulnerability, risk, and sacrifice and that can’t happen only facing forward in a seat and going home.
  • Cultivating a community isn’t measurable. Relationships can’t be measured. Life change never happens in a snap. Slogging it out over the long haul is brutal and tries our patience. The fruit is harder to see, sometimes completely imperceptible to the un-Jesus-trained eye. The results we tend to look for as humans is sometimes elusive and to some, we often look like losers. Church building looks for quicker means, success stories, measurables, things to capitalize on to make it grow.
  • Cultivating a community requires breaking down power differentials. That’s what I love about deep community, brothers and sisters of all walks of life really in the trenches together. Real community crosses gender, socioeconomics, education, and other great divides that tend to typically separate us. In community, relationships aren’t “to” or “for” but they are truly “with" and everyone can play and participate, not just the pretty, popular, or powerful.
  • Cultivating community allows for people to enter in ways they need to. Churches tend to count their membership by Sunday worship, but in community people can enter and engage in all kinds of creative ways.
  • Cultivating a community usually doesn’t provide financial stability. I have found that most of the community cultivators I know struggle financially, and I think accepting that reality can be helpful. It does mean we have to be really creative (and sometimes that is extra tiring).
  • Cultivating a community values diversity not homogeneity. This means holding the tension of a wide variety of differences together and honoring that true unity is not uniformity. It’s recognizing the image of God in each and every person and the value that that person, with their unique beliefs, perspectives, gifts, and experiences, brings to the community. Whew, that's hard to do.

There all kinds of people dedicated to building churches, and this isn't to dismiss their work. But I also want to highlight in the world of faith shifts and resistance and deep pain and disconnection and struggle, oh, we need more communities.

Messy, beautiful, slow, weird, inefficient, holy, healing ones.

The article above was adapted from the article "the difference between cultivating communities and building churches" posted by Kathy Escobar on her website, 24 April 2017.

April 2017